Well, it's frustrating when people mangle what I say and bring up strawman positions of my own. So stop it.
What did I mangle, and which strawmen have I created? I'm not trying to get into a slap-fight here, but I don't think I've done what you say I've done.
I'd look it up, but women are notoriously bad at that.
I think I took the "inaccurate to label that person as sexist" comment as being directed at me/other loudmouths on this forum. I've tried to be as consistent as possible when commenting on sexist actions--again, seperating the action from the person. Not only is it counterproductive, imo, to call someone sexist (unless they actually do consistently exhibit sexist behavior), but I know personally that it is quite easy to accidentally sexist. So, yeah, I think that they way you worded your response to me is what got my goat. I've also been grouchy the last couple of days regarding feminist discussion because of all the shit-talking that was happening in the [redacted] threads.
I don't understand why it's so hard to explain to a group of skeptics why you should be aware of biases in your everyday life.
Yeah, that's fair. I'm not arguing against you so much as complaining that being aware of my biases in this case is demonstrably pretty difficult because they're harder to be aware of than usual. That makes it even harder to acknowledge when you're doing something wrong or say, out of a paternalistic impulse that you didn't even know you harbored.
All you can really do is treat people equally and work like hell against your own preconscious biases, knowing that you won't always win.
I think I'm cursed in that I constantly question my motivations for the things I do--more so that anyone I know, actually. I've been this way ever since I realized that events were causally linked, even if I couldn't know all of the causes (I think I was 13 or 14 at the time). So, yeah, sometimes I forget that not everyone is as meta-neurotic as I am.
And, yeah, the best you can really do is know that occasionally your brain will make you do sexist/racist/genderist/homophobic things.
GUYS IS IT TIME FOR THE HUGS YET?!