genderqueer is perfectly acceptable. People in the community use it all the time. I probably verge on being genderqueer, since I'm a tomboy that likes to get my hands dirty, wear jeans and tshirts and play with legos. Or something like that.
Do gender stereotypes have to be applied for "genderqueer" to be a useful word?
I think they do. If you look at gender identity in the very young, you see that gender expression in people who are transgender tends to follow these stereotypes. Not only is the boy insisting he's a girl, but he also wants to play with ponies, wear dresses and makeup. Perhaps they do this just because gender stereotypes are so ingrained into our brains and culture. One of the reasons I waffle on the 'genderqueer' label is because of this. I certainly don't feel like I should be a girl or boy. my gender and my genitals are not in conflict. However, my gender stereotype and the way I actually want to express myself are. I guess you could look to lesbians who tend to take on male stereotypical traits - short hair, jeans, more androgyny in their appearance. I don't really know if they consider themselves genderqueer, or identify more as male without necessarily having an issue with their sex. Honestly, I'm probably not the right person to ask about this. I'm really just pulling all this ex ano.