No one is complaining when people like Ashley Miller blog about being harassed by a guy, being touched, followed, and propositioned after being told to stop. Actually, I don't think it was a good idea for Ashley Miller to not report the incident for fear of making TAM look bad, I'd want the opposite and DJ Grothe didn't complain when it was finally reported (even though it was not directed to him or TAM), he thanked her. There is absolutely no problem with blogging about what happened to you.
Taking the same example, the problem is that when DJ Grothe states he had no report about the incident of sexual harassment (which isn't surprising considering Ashley Miller decided not to report it) she states she is upset that no one at TAM remembers it or made a note of it, and accuses TAM of thinking it doesn't count because a report wasn't made in writing, or that they were speakers. That's exactly the kind of fucked up, ignorant, sensational, bat shit interpretation that's the problem. If that was actually the case, and it isn't, there's a way bigger problem than one drunken asshole that deserved to be kicked out of TAM and banned (which he wasn't, because it wasn't reported).
That's not a particularly bad example of this kind of behaviour, Rebecca and her friends are much worse than that. Their posts aren't about isolated incidents of sexism and harassment, they're about framing and creating a narrative. The problem is about turning events into things they are not, like turning awkward polite propositioning into threatening situations when they're not. No one is saying it shouldn't be criticized on a personal level, or that people shouldn't talk about them.
The hilarious thing about this is that Rebecca et al. are asking for more consideration, understanding, and for people to be more sensitive when they are completely unwilling to act in an appropriate manner. They're acting in a way that suggests they're far more interested in gaining blog hits and generating anger towards others than they are of solving problems and working with people. It says it all that their definition of "listen" to us, is "accept whatever we say without question" because whenever someone doesn't, well you've seen the reaction, you get accused of horrendous stuff like "gaslighting". That's some nice mob-mentality and bullying they've got going on, not that they'll apologise for any of it.