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Yep, you ain't right boy.
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Nah, its her.
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Offline Ah.hell

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Is there somethign off about me.
« on: December 01, 2019, 03:25:49 PM »
So, the other day my Mother in law comes to visit.  I'm in the kitchen doing something. Not sure what, cooking cleaning whatever, just in the middle of something. When I'm done, I say some nice things in greeting.

Later my wife says, "you know that hurts my mom's feelings when you don't say hi." 

My thoughts are, "she should suck it up, why does she think I should drop everything anytime she shows up at the door?"  Granted, she's visiting from out of town but she also has an apartment in town. 

So, am I jerk or do I have a point?
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Re: Is there somethign off about me.
« Reply #1 on: December 01, 2019, 03:34:21 PM »
It's her.

Of course, if she was my friend and told the same story I'd be saying "It's him."

But that would be a lie, because it's her. ;D
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Re: Is there somethign off about me.
« Reply #2 on: December 02, 2019, 12:48:41 PM »
You're not acknowledging her on purpose though, right?  I mean being busy is a good excuse, but it seems like you are actively denying her the greeting you know she wants.

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Re: Is there somethign off about me.
« Reply #3 on: December 02, 2019, 02:33:11 PM »
You're not acknowledging her on purpose though, right?  I mean being busy is a good excuse, but it seems like you are actively denying her the greeting you know she wants.
Yes and know, I didn't think, "I know i should say hi but I'm busy."  "I thought, I'm busy I'll say hello when I'm done."

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Re: Is there somethign off about me.
« Reply #4 on: December 02, 2019, 03:42:03 PM »
You're not acknowledging her on purpose though, right?  I mean being busy is a good excuse, but it seems like you are actively denying her the greeting you know she wants.
Yes and know, I didn't think, "I know i should say hi but I'm busy."  "I thought, I'm busy I'll say hello when I'm done."
Most grownups understand there is a reasonable amount of time that when someone is preoccupied that they will be absent from proper responses. This includes returning phone calls and texting replies back. Often it's not as fast as we'd like on the receiving end, but we suck it up and realize it isn't us. But some people can't help but to internalize everything and make it about them. This sounds like the perfect storm of someone who wants to get hurt coupled with someone who (probably rightly) doens't care if she gets butt hurt over something stupid.

Right or wrong, when it comes to family, sometimes it pays to suck it up and be the bigger person and cater to someone else's ego.

But yeah, it's her.
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Re: Is there somethign off about me.
« Reply #5 on: December 02, 2019, 05:14:19 PM »
"Hello, I'm just in the middle of something, I'll be with you in a minute."
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